Facing Grief During the Holidays

Dealing with Grief During the Holidays

There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go.  ~Author Unknown Holidays bring up the best and worst in our emotions. Okay, I’ll say it frankly, hurting during the holidays […]

Weeds Tattoo

Embracing self-expression…and rejecting shame

“It’s known, not “know-en”, he commented. “ There is no extra syllable…” I felt the familiar tug of shame. I’m a 44-year old writer; certainly, I should know how to pronounce words as simple as known, flown, shown, and others. The commenting continued to the point that I was consciously trying to correct myself before […]


A Caring Challenge

It’s simple, look people in the eye and give a s#it. Really. How often do you just go through habitual niceties with store clerks or waiters? They ask “how are you today?” you reply, “Fine thank you,” without making eye contact and they take your order. No thought or caring, simply an exchange of rote […]

Navigating Rapids

The Ride of a Lifetime: Navigating Emotional Rapids

River rafting and whitewater kayaking are sports I enjoy. I’m not expert, but I savor the ride and do a respectable job of keeping it upright. I noticed that the better we anticipated the flow of the river over the rapids, the easier it was to navigate. Not paying attention and paddling blindly into rapids […]

Relaxing Christmas

Turkey, Trees, and Surviving Dysfunctional Family Holidays

What I share here is from my experience as the adult child of alcoholics, but it may apply to people who have lived with other challenging relationships. I’m not a therapist or an expert on anything except for my own life. Holidays are some of the most challenging times for children who grew up in […]

Gratitude on Mount Raymond

Seven tips for living with intention

It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. – E E Cummings I realized something about myself today. My inspiration to shift from a reactionary life, to one created with intention, was based on the simple belief that people can change and improve their lives. Sounds simple right? Well, it’s not […]

Caver Rappelling

Facing my fears…and surviving

A great part of courage is having done the thing before. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson Below is a post I wrote a couple of months ago but never published. It was so emotional at the time I wasn’t ready to let it see the light of day. Have you ever faced a fear so deep […]